Relationships
We are a young couple, so you can imagine the surprise and disappointment we discovered once we got married and learned that intimacy was not going to be a beautiful and amazing thing as our wedding and honey moon location. Fast forward through our first year of marriage, there were times I had a heating pad on my stomach or under my back for intimacy. That is just not romantic to have that as a third wheel. I think for a man to have a wife who is in pain every time they are intimate or never feeling well enough to want it, can really affect how they feel - especially if you don't have an answer for what is happening. Heating pad for when my period came and I was too weak to get out of bed or spent all day curled up in a ball in front of the bathroom door, because I was having non stop bowel issues. He would leave for work and come home and find me the same way he left. I could see the frustration at having a wife who looked the picture of health, but yet always seemed to be sick. I was frustrated with always feeling unwell and feeling like my life was just passing me by some days and my body was failing me. We had no idea what was happening to me or why. I think once we had an answer, we were both able to understand more and find ways to work around it. He would run to the store before going to work to make sure I had easy meals to eat, enough menstrual products when I was on my period, a heating pad plugged into the wall by our bed and one in the bath room. It made me try harder when I was able, to attempt to get our household work done while he was at work and to find ways to make intimacy something enjoyable for me, something I want to be apart of. It was kind of our way of saying this is hard, but we're both doing our best to understand and deal with the reality of it.
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