A Survival Letter to the Newly Separated Mom

Dear Separated Mama,

I wholeheartedly relate to the sadness and despair you may feel. Similar to you, I chose to have children with a partner. I signed up for a forever marriage and family. I never dreamed in my wildest dreams this would be my life. Now I have been separated for almost 2 years. My reality is I am a separated mom raising children, including one who is an exceptional learner - as a co-parent.

Everything is a painful reminder that I am without a partner, and I still need help. It literally feels like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders with an immense number of responsibilities crushing me. But what I feel the most are the quiet nights, the empty bed, the silence. The loneliness.

To survive, I remind myself often that I am okay. I must not let the fear of the unknown make me believe that the life I was living before was better. Better is not looking behind me at what was, but what is in front of me that I am working towards.

You may be wondering if there is a happily ever after at the end of the story. While I can not say for sure, I can say that usually, life after separation and divorce gets better with time. In time, these wounds will begin to close. To heal. To scar. And eventually, fade.

Sincerely,

A Mom Who Has Been In Your Shoes

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