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How I Feel During Sad Days

  On my low days during my second separation, I will have moments where I hyper-focus on the fact that I am separated and getting a divorce. And how both situations leave me without a partner. On those bad days, I wish desperately my marriage to my children’s father could have been better. So I wouldn’t have to go through this. Other times, I wish this chapter of my life was already closed. And I can instantly be somewhere in the future, where I have a new partner who will help me raise and take care of my kids. A partner to hold me on sad days and listen to my feelings. In my opinion, something I desired but missed out on in my first marriage. I think these can be normal feelings and part of the grieving process for some individuals.  For me, the important part is to work through those feelings and not dwell too long in that doubtful space.  My doubtful space is where I am constantly asking God why? Why this trial? How long must I endure it? I tend to feel lost and disco...

How Do I Feel About Marriage?

  For those of you who are just following my story, I am in the process of divorce and ending 12 years of marriage. Although, I have some scars and fears from this experience, I know I still have those desires and dreams of marriage and family.   Right now, I'm not in that space for a new relationship or marriage. But I would be open to the possibility, if and when that opportunity should come. This is after my divorce is complete and I've had some time to heal.  It also helped to hear a story from a divorced woman. She said, "I never thought I wanted to be married again after all the horrible things I went through. But then I dated a nice man that made me realize I did want to remarry one day."  It reminds me that when I am healed I need to leave my heart open. I can't let the fear of being hurt make me judge every new guy and situation by the past. It wouldn't be fair to them. Or me. Last Edited: July 20, 2021

Play List: Marital Separation

🎧 Keri Hilson - Energy Keyshia Cole - I Should Have Cheated Ashanti-Foolish Brandy - Have You Ever Little Mix - Love Me or Leave Me OAR - Peace Keshia Cole - I Remember Brandy- Almost Doesn't Count Keith Urban - Stupid Boy Little Big Town - Better Man Brett Young - Have Mercy Gone West - I'm Never Getting Over You Maddie & Tae - Die From A Broken Heart Lady Antebellum -  What If I Never Get Over You? Lewis Capaldi - Someone You Loved Kelesia Ballerini - Blindsided Kelsea Ballerini - Peter Pan Carly Pearce - What He Didn't Do Lauren Spencer Smith - Flowers K Michelle - Can't Raise A Man Last Edited: June 20, 2023 Disclaimer:  I do not own the rights to any music featured.  All official artist videos are licensed.  The information can be found on  Youtube.

Separation & Divorce Play List

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New Changes

Thanks for joining me today. Whether you are new or a returning visitor to my blog, I want to share some news with you. I am giving my blog a makeover! You may notice some things change or disappear. A search button should help you find anything that is still available on my blog. Also, if you are new or you have not read it before, please read my disclaimer. It is at the top of my blog in the tab, disclaimer. I encourage my readers to speak with health care professionals and really do the homework before trying anything. Especially anything they have read online. It protects all of us. Last Edited: January 2, 2021

Where Am I Now?

If you’re new to my blog, my last post, “Why Divorce” should have answered a couple of questions, such as how many separations there have been. Some may be wondering where am I now? My last post was at the end of November 2020. Plus it’s a new year!  The biggest question now might be, am I still separated? Or am I divorced? The answer is I am still separated. It’s almost been 8 months.  My original goal was to start the divorce process after 6 months of separation. However, it is taking longer to settle into my new life and role as a single, separated mom.  Some of those reasons are due to relocation and finding a new home. Others are finding an education program and a job. And that was just for me! Then a new school and pediatrician for my kids. Also, church for our family. It's been a lot of work, to get to a place, where I am able to file for divorce. Additional Resources  Song: Again by Jessie Clark Funk (Shazam) Last Edited: January 24, 2021