What I Learned: Discipline

Not Using Time Out & Changing Perspective on Discipline

I heard this from natural and attached parenting moms, even from my early childhood education professors. It took a while of hearing this and learning from experience how ineffective time out was (we did child in time out 1 min per age). We used this method often from 2-3 years old with our 1st child, but always felt that she was in time out too much and not feeling like the behavior was getting better. By 3.5 years old, we were sure that time out was being over used, no improvement in our toddler's behavior and we were finding ourselves easily becoming frustrated with every misbehavior, warning and attempts at failed discipline. We all of a sudden knew why some joke, terrible two's and three's. Our solution was to attempt to use time out less and save it for severe things like hitting or pushing the baby, but even less time out didn't work, because we still said, stop x and y or I'll put you in time out and attempted to replace all the time out with consequences - don't pick up toys, gone, make a mess, clean it up - at 3, this was expecting way too much. A little over 4 months before our toddler's 4th birthday and around 1.5 years of the time out merry go round, and trying to replace time out of with a bunch of consequences for misbehavior, we decided we officially needed to stop the time out power struggle and gave time out the boot! Don't get me wrong, I understand how terrifying it is to let go of time out, especially when it seems to work so well for Super Nanny. If you want to read some articles / blogs to understand why, read these: What's Wrong With Using Consequences to teach kids lessons? , How to Use Positive Discipline, Could You Dare Not to Discipline

Not Counting

We said we would never become the "counting" parents and somehow along the way we did. But we found compelling information to go back to not doing it. Who knew counting meant you were telling your child they can have so many chances, when in fact you just want them to listen to the first time you say something? http://www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/parenting/kids-not-listening-dont-count-on-1-2-3

Not threatening to Leave

As gentle parents, my husband and I wanted to avoid fear. So we said we would tell our children good bye before leaving rather than sneaking away. We didn't want to do anything to break their trust, by bluffing at how we would leave them if they didn't come right away. Now, we're not perfect parents and we have had moments where we gave into it. But over time have learned how much better it is without resorting to these types of methods. http://www.thedoctorwillseeyounow.com/content/kids/art3388.html?getPage=1

Clear Blue Plus Pregnancy Test (Blue Dye)

Clear Blue Plus Pregnancy Test with Blue Dye (+ / - ) This is what a negative looks like: Side Note: Blue dyes are often said to more frequently give false positives than pink dye. Some online boards that will tweak (alter) a pregnancy test photo to help individuals identify if the test is a faint positive or indeed negative, often will not do blue dyes.

Frida Mom for Post Laparoscopy Care

My Frida Mom Basket for Post-Laparoscopy Care. Why I Love the Frida Mom Line (Even Beyond Motherhood) One of the things I’ve really come to appreciate is how versatile the Frida Mom line is—not just for new moms, but for anyone recovering from abdominal surgeries, such as laparoscopies for endometriosis. After surgery, comfort and gentle care are everything. That’s where the C-section recovery underwear comes in. Even if you haven’t had a baby, the design makes sense—when you have incisions on your abdomen, you need something soft, high-waisted, and non-restrictive. These disposable underwears are a lifesaver compared to standard disposable Depends. The big difference? You can build your own pad system . Start with the underwear. Add a menstrual pad. Layer on a witch hazel perineal liner, perineal cream, or both. Attach an optional heating pad for cramping. It’s completely customizable depending on what your body needs that day. I also want to mention the liners pack...

My Laparoscopy Recovery Essentials: What’s Actually Helping Me Heal

Disclaimer: Links to all the products I mentioned are included. I am not being paid to promote any of them and do not receive payments. Skin sensitivity may impact your experiences with these products. Recovering from my laparoscopy has been a journey, and honestly, some days are more uncomfortable than others. Over the past week, I’ve found a few products that have made a huge difference in how I feel—both physically and mentally. Here’s what’s been helping me get through it: 1. Body Wash That Feels Safe Before and after surgery, I wanted something gentle that still felt clean. I’ve been using Dove Antibacterial Body Wash , and it’s been perfect. It keeps the incision area clean without stinging or irritating my skin, which is such a relief. 2. Underwear That Actually Works I never thought I’d get excited about disposable underwear, but Frida Mom Disposable C-Section Underwear has been a game-changer. They’re soft, supportive, and don’t press on my stomach—exactly what ...

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