Should I Date while Separated? (1)

Dating while Separated?

Have you ever wondered about this? I will be honest. I am curious about this myself. I know most Christian recommendations are waiting until you are officially divorced. And I know this is much easier said than done for women who are going through long separations and divorces, such as myself.

At the beginning of my separation, I always explained I am a “single” separated mom. But legally married. I often used that to help turn down dating offers. Sometimes it was easy. Other times it was hard. Occasionally, I wondered what could’ve happened if I had said yes.

These thoughts give me mixed feelings. How can you start a new chapter when you haven’t finished the one before it? And isn’t it less messy if you wait? Or is it all messy anyway?

But now my thoughts go to what happens when this process is more than a few months? More than a year? More than a couple of years? What happens when buying your freedom out of an unhealthy marriage is an entire season? And how long should a person have to wait?

And how does a separated woman sit with that loneliness and sadness of living in the space between marriage and singleness? She has a title, but no benefits of being a wife. She no longer has a live-in partner to help with the children. And she cannot move forward and find someone new.

Last Edited: March 1, 2022

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