Unfolding Dreams

Check List For Things That Sway Girl Cycle # 5 Vitex Late Breakfasts  Age: 24 + Vitamin B6 Eating Brunch Cranberry Pills Cranberry Juice Things That I Occasionally Did That Sways Boy Cycle # 5 Bacon (red meat) Snacking Pretzels (Salty) Fast Food Oranges

Disclaimer: I am not an expert on creating a Sway Diet. I customized my diet based on reading several Sway diets to make a realistic diet for myself in addition to literature on healthy preconception diets as well.   I am not saying if you follow this diet, you will become pregnant or pregnant with the gender you desire.  I am including this  advice that I've read from swayers,  you do not have to do every single thing ever recommended for a sway, just find what works best for your body. Click on photos for larger view.  Each table is a separate photo, although they are all lined up together. Article Links: https://conceptiondeceptions.wordpress.com/gender-swaying-tips-for-boy/ http://www.in-gender.com/forum/thread.aspx?ID=3585

This advice comes from many women who have experienced successful and failed sways and summarized into this one message of the advice I have read among swaying forums (I take no credit for these words of wisdom I share with any eager women / couples eager to try swaying): First, please, don't blame yourself if your sway fails.  Many women have experienced failed sways, even some of the best sways. Second,  Swaying works some what in swaying the odds, but it is not a 100%. However, that does not always mean success. You can still believe in swaying, but that's all it is, a sway. The rest is fate, luck, destiny, God  -  whatever it is you believe in....The best line of thinking is I want a baby. If it's a [whatever gender you're hoping for] then that is a bonus. Third, if your sway fails and you decide you may want to try again. Ask yourself if you're okay with having a [gender you aren't hoping for]. If you can answer honestly that yes you ...

Lately, I've been reading on Gender Swaying. It's all the craze with women hoping to conceive a specific gender. This method is said not to be 100%.  Something of interest caught my attention, frequent intimacy lowers sperm count and that sways girl.  - Most of this falls under timing of intimacy -  With my first pregnancy, I really wanted a girl. I knew nothing about sway (until I started trying to conceive number 3) or really much about ways to increase conception other than to be intimate. My idea was it only takes one time to become pregnant, but the little bit of literature I had read suggested timing was everything to increase the chance of a successful pregnancy. Since I wasn't sure of when was the best time for conception, I got the idea that frequent intimacy would increase my chance of becoming pregnant. For trying to conceive number one, it was intimacy every day to every other day and yes, we had a girl. When trying to conceive num...

Disclaimer: I am not saying this is true and will guarantee a specific gender. Things That Are Said To Sway Girl Clomid without IUI  Vitex Vitamin  B6 Taking Antihistamines  High Pre-Ovulation Basal Body Temps Intimacy every day through ovulation Intimacy 3-5 days before ovulation Avoiding conception during September - November (higher conception for boys) Male has lower sperm count Deposit sperm shallowly during Intimacy Age: 24 and older Being sick while trying to conceive If you suffer from sleep deprivation Breastfeeding Missing breakfast ( I do not recommend skipping it on purpose)` PH of 4 (test every day before being intimate) Avoid fast foods Drinking Green juices Eat dark green leafy vegetables  Sylk Lubricant for intimacy  Avoid Red Meats, Eat more Chicken or Fish Have Partner avoid red meats, tomatoes, and carrots Can eat: Strawberries, Cranberries, Raspberries  Things That Are Said To Sway Boy...

Disclaimer: I am not an expert on creating a Sway Diet. I customized my diet based on reading several Sway diets to make a realistic diet for myself in addition to literature on healthy pre-conception diets as well . If I follow through with this diet consistently enough, I will post the results and how I did everything.  I am not saying if you follow this diet, you will become pregnant or pregnant with the gender you desire.  I am including this  advice that I've read from swayers,  you do not have to do every single thing ever recommended for a sway, just find what works best for your body. Click on photos for larger view. Side Notes:  Blueberries: Blueberries is said to be more nutritious, so sways boy. Some say you can eat blueberries in a girl diet. Others say one food item will not break or make a sway. So this is one you can decide to add in your own diet or not use. Yogurt : The yogurt is for calc...

How extreme you want to go is up to you. Some literature says some of the diets and regiments can take the romance right out of intimacy with how strict they are. Some diets and regiments may take some couples right out of their comfort zones.  For example, some diets and their regiments may go beyond a woman just checking cervical mucus. They may ask her to taste her cervical mucus even. For me, checking cervical mucus is just outside of my comfort zone, tasting is so far out of my comfort zone I won't consider even trying to do it. But for some, that might not be a big deal at all. Depends on the woman and the couple at what they feel comfortable doing to boost the odds in getting pregnant and getting the gender they want. Also some women with normal cycles have reported when they started changing their diets and doing different things for gender swaying they went from having regular periods to irregular and also became stressed. Again, make sure that whatever you'r...

What is the most important part of gender swaying? The important part of gender swaying is said to be the diet, not the timing of intimacy. The diet alters, adjusts and maintains certain ph levels, hormones and minerals you need for the conception of a boy or girl.  There have been plenty of diets created for gender swaying and numerous of tips and gender swaying forums online. The other important part of gender swaying I hear is said to be ph. There is a big emphasis on Diet and PH. I would focus heavily on these two and consider them both the most important parts of gender swaying. Article Links: http://www.everydayfamily.com/natural-gender-swaying/

As for how long can an OPK test stay positive, depends on the woman according to my research. for some women it could be only 12 hours (and can be missed it only testing once a day). For some women it is said it can be as long as 2-3 days.  It depends on how much LH her body produces, and how quickly it dissipates in her urine.

Fertility  Friend says  OPKs are expected to be positive the day before you ovulate  It also depends on what fertility literature you follow. OPK boxes may say you will ovulate 24 hours after a positive test and some literature  says 12 to 48 hours.

The rule of thumb for this is to be intimate before a positive OPK, when you get a positive one and even after. Some literature even suggests being intimate EOD (every other day) up to a week after your positive OPK.  I agree with this idea, because if you're unsure when you ovulated, then you increase your chances of catching your egg. Last Edited: April 12, 2017

 If you only take your OPKs once a day, you can miss your LH surge. Take OPKs at least 2x a day, such as once in the afternoon and once in the evening.

 Avoid taking OPKs (ovulation prediction kits) with first morning urine. First morning urine is said to give false results. You are likely to get better results when you take your OPKs in the afternoon around the same time each day.

One trick I like to do when using 2 line ovulation test is to confirm with a digital. Digital ovulation tests usually show a smiley face around your fertile time or a circle with no face for a non-fertile time.  The days your digital and 2 line ovulation tests match up are usually a good indicator that you're around your fertile time. However, sometimes they may not match up. It could depend on the quality of the brands you are using. You may find through trial and error some brands are less reliable for you than others. According to fertility friend.com, OPKs are positive the day before you ovulate. ( http://www.fertilityfriend.com/Faqs/Ovulation-Prediction-Kits--OPKs--.html )

Going Natural (Round 2) I wish I could say cutting my own hair and giving myself the power to get rid of my dead ends made me feel better and made it a whole lot easier. And in some ways it did. While the first cut was the hardest, transitioning almost every inch of relaxed hair was a very hard thing to do.  It Was Still Hard... One I was seeing the hair I had grown out literally get chopped in half gradually. Seeing where it was before and where it now was kind of a big shock, even though I was gradually working my way up to it.  Some of the mini chops were close together because I had times where I was becoming impatient. I just wanted to get to the end of the journey since transitioning my hair is taking so long. Aftermath The aftermath is a little messy too. While I did a decent job cutting off my relaxed ends, it's not really styled. Prior to going natural, my hair was uneven long in the back and shorter in the front. It looked more intentional. But it wasn...

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"We made a  Wish  and you came  True  ." - Unknown Trying To Conceive Time Line: 12.19.2008 - Married 08.12.2009 - Laparoscopy # 1 (at age 20) Stage I Endometriosis diagnosed Endometriosis and a cyst on the ovary were removed Pregnancy # 1: 10.29.2009 - Started trying to conceive baby # 1 We tried for 3 menstrual cycles 02.11.2010 - Positive Pregnancy Test (at age 20) 2010 - Birth of Baby # 1 at age 21 {Epidural, 8 lbs, 2 oz} Pregnancy # 2: 07.26.2011 - Started trying to conceive baby # 2 while breastfeeding We tried unsuccessfully for 8 months and 1 week without a menstrual cycle 04.02.2012 - First postpartum menstrual cycle starts (17 months postpartum) We tried unsuccessfully for 5 cycles (with a menstrual cycle) 8.23.2012 - Diagnosis of Retroverted "Tilted" Uterus The gynecologist advises us not to try while I take the anatomy cadaver lab Started a 3-month break from trying after 5 postpartum menst...

I Know The Feeling... It is frustrating to want to be pregnant and feel like everyone in the world is but you. I've been on both sides. The side of wanting to be pregnant and having no children of my own. And the other side of trying to become pregnant after having a child. On both sides, it can be hard to hear all the announcements.  When I was newly married, I wanted to try to have kids after six months of marriage. But my husband wanted to wait a year or so to be more settled as a married couple. We were still deciding when would be the best time. Our church that we ended up going to was for the married and college couples in our religion. I am not kidding when I say almost every woman was pregnant and/or pregnant with other children, except for about three of us women. How was I suppose to concentrate on finding the right time, if I was waiting for a year of marriage or more ? And in that year or more all I saw was pregnant bumps and babies every time I walk...

Are there many different gender sway diets and tips out there? Yes. Results in what different people have found worked for them, may or may not work for you. Each person who gives an anecdote of what worked or  didn't  work for them is what creates varying tips, suggestions and plans. You have to find what works best for you  among  all the information out there. One online post, I found interesting said, the more you do the more you increase your chances. Be cautious when trying things suggested on the internet and pay attention to make sure you are not doing anything that is dangerous and taking away from your health. I am reminded of that saying, “If it isn’t broken, don’t fix it.”  So make sure whatever you’re trying is really helping you.

Is it morally wrong to sway?  My personal and religious beliefs are that I have no real control, but I feel it  doesn't  hurt to help increase the odds I would like when trying to increase my chances of becoming pregnant and what gender I’m currently dreaming of when trying to become pregnant. At the end of the day, the goal is a healthy baby at the right time regardless of all the ideas I hope and think I want at the different moments in my journey of conceiving my child and to enjoy the journey my husband and I are on.  I am however, reminded of that saying, “Be careful what you wish for.” Sometimes you find out what you wanted, may not necessarily be what you needed. But I trust that what is supposed to happen is what will happen and it will be what is right. For each couple how much or little they are willing to do to sway, to become pregnant, to prevent pregnancy are all personal decisions that should be discussed  among  themselves and pra...

Does Gender Swaying Really Work? This method is not 100%. Couples using Shettles method are said 75-85% of the time to get the sex they desire for their baby. That means 15-25% of the couples do not if this is true.  Knowing the difference between the male and female sperm is said to be crucial for success. Female sperm is said to be slower, stronger, and have a longer lifespan than male sperm. While male sperm is said to be faster, weaker, and have a shorter lifespan (What To Expect).  I also recommend  exercising  caution when reading information online and anyone  guaranteeing  you high results. It might be too good to be true. Sources  1. "What to Expect."  What To Expect . What To Expect, 17 June 2013. Web. 04 Jan. 2017. <http://www.whattoexpect.com/blogs/children-count-sheep-mama-counts-blessings/making-a-baby-boy-the-shettles-method>. Last Edited: September 29, 2018

Where did Gender Swaying come from? The theory came from the Shettles Method, created by biologist Landrum Shettles. He discovered that Y sperm (male producing) are smaller and faster and X-sperm (female producing) are larger and live longer. Also, that female sperm survives better in acidic environments, while male sperm swims better and more quickly in alkaline environments. His theory also includes that timing intimacy is very important, further away from ovulation (around to 2.5-3 days) more likely sway girl and timing intimacy near or close to ovulation more likely sway boy (Winder). Bibliography Winder, Kelly. "Shettles Method – Trying For A Boy Or Girl."  Belly Belly . Belly Belly, 10 Nov. 2015. Web. 4 Jan. 2017. <https://www.bellybelly.com.au/conception/gender-selection-shettles-method/>. Last Edited: January 4, 2017

~ clicked on the link for more information ~ Where Did It Come From? Does It Work? Is It Morally Wrong? Differing Ideas? Important Part of Gender Swaying Gender Swaying Extremes Best Advice To Remember When Swaying Sway Girl / Sway Boy List Unknowingly Swaying My Version of the Boy Diet My Version of the Girl Diet My Thought on Gender Swaying Article Links   Mama Natural: How We Swayed Girl Everyday Family: Natural Gender Swaying Conception Deception: Gender Swaying Tips for Boys http://www.in-gender.com/forum/thread.aspx?ID=3585 http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gender-swaying-general-discussion/2159-water-water-everywhere-pink-blue.html Last Edited: January 4, 2017

Dear Mothers Who Want To Bathe Alone, I've got just the song for you. I just found myself creating it one when I was in a similar scenario as you. "There you are fussing, unable to give me 5 mins alone.  But little child, I just want to bathe alone.  Please don't climb in.   I see you there, making me feel guilty for wanting this one simple luxury.  You keep on fussing until I let you win.  I can feel my resolve melting as I let you in."  The scenario was my mom only 5 min shower turned into my son joining me fully clothes as he climbed right in. Yes, I am that mom that makes up songs and poems for the endless mother situations I find myself in as I learn to pick and choose my battles. Good thing all that singing and dancing in the bathroom as a child prepared me for moments like this. Who knew? Just know you are not alone and they won't bathe with you forever. One day you will have showers and baths uninterrupted. ...

To see what my hair looked like before my 6 mini chops:  10.5 Months of Trimming "The First Cut Is The Hardest" 1. Mini Chop at 10.5 months 2. Cut to even out the ends  10-02-2014 3. 10-30-2014 4. 11-17-2014 5. 12-3-2014 6. 12-16-2014 To learn how I felt after my 6 mini chops read here: 6 Mini Chops Later Here's How My Hair Looks Now:   Hair After 6 Mini Chops